Stay Single Until You Find A Love That Makes You Say, ‘Oh, There You Are’
There’s a moment in the movie Hook when the Lost Boys doubt the identity of Peter Pan.
He can’t fly, he can’t fight, and he can’t crow, because, well, he’s an adult now.
Unable to grasp this newfound adulthood, The Lost Boys are ready to leave him in the dust. Rufio wants everyone to join his team and leave Peter in the dust, so he draws a line in the mud and asks his friends to stand with him.
But one of the youngest Lost Boys, Pockets (Isaiah Robinson), steps over the line. He brings Peter Pan (Robin Williams) to his knees and looks at him carefully. Peter is older now, no longer the Lost Boy that they all once knew. But Pockets sits there and takes off his glasses. He stretches his face and smooshes his cheeks together, pulling his cheeks back into a forced smile.
And then he says, “Oh, there you are, Peter.”
It’s a moment of awe.
It’s a moment of beauty.
It’s a look that’s filled with love.
And as this happens, the chaos that is the everyday happenings of the Lost Boys is stopped.
They all look to Peter and Pockets in amazement.
Love should feel like that.
And you should stay single until you find a love like that.
You should stay single until you find a love that makes you believe in magic.
You should stay single until you find a love that makes you feel like you can hold the things that we cannot see — like admiration, and affection, and amazement. And yes, love.
You should stay single until you can understand what the movies, novels, and grandparents gush about.
You should stay single until your breath stops for a minute.
You should stay single until the world around you becomes a haze of colors and blurry faces, and the only clear thing is the face of your beloved.
Love is a gift and one you most certainly deserve. It doesn’t come on your schedule, it can sometimes be late to the party — but it is out there for you.
So please don’t settle for a love that doesn’t make you believe.
Please stay single until you find a love that makes you say, “oh, there you are.”
Previously published on Thought Catalog, here.